Japanese story

WHEN A LIZARD CAN, WHY CAN’T WE?
This is a true story that happened in Japan. In order to renovate the house, someone in Japan Breaks open the wall. Japanese houses normally have a hollow space between the wooden walls. When tearing down the walls, he found that there was a lizard stuck there because a nail from outside hammered into one of its feet. He sees this, feels pity, and at the same time curious, as when he checked the nail, it was nailed 10 years ago when the house was first built.
What happened?
The lizard has survived in such position for 10 years! In a dark wall partition for 10 years without moving, it is impossible and mind boggling. Then he wondered how this lizard survived for 10 years! without moving a single step–since its foot was nailed! So he stopped his work and observedthe lizard , what it has been doing, and what and how it has been eating. Later, not knowing from where it came, appears another lizard, with food in its mouth. Ahh! He was stunned and touched deeply. Forthe lizard that was stuck by nail, another lizard has been feeding it for the past 10 years…

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Such help! such a beautiful love! Such happened even with this tiny creature .. What can help do? It can do wonders! Help can do miracles!
Imagine? it has been doing that untiringly for 10 long years, without giving up hope on its partner. Imagine what a small creature can do that a creature blessed with a brilliant mind can’t. Please never abandon your loved ones – both professional & personal.
HELP is an act, do it, let it go…..PATIENCE is a sign, we should wear, let it show.

Published in: on March 3, 2010 at 3:47 AM  Leave a Comment  
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Do you still have a reason to be unhappy?

Your attitude towards life defines not only who you are,

but the quality of life you are after.

 

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Whatever it is that has been bugging you,
doesn’t seem so bad anymore, does it?
If only we all could have the spirit that this little boy has!

Published in: on February 17, 2010 at 1:20 PM  Leave a Comment  
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Simple Commandments to make life happier

‘Be  kinder than necessary because everyone you meet  is fighting some kind of battle.’
A  sharp tongue can cut your own throat.
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If  you want your dreams to come true, you mustn’t
oversleep.

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Of  all the things you wear, your expression is the  most
important. Try to keep it as truthful as possible.

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The  best vitamin  for making friends……  B1.
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The  happiness of your life depends on the quality of
your thoughts.
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The  heaviest thing you can carry is a
grudge..

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One  thing you can give and still keep….is your
word.
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You  lie the  loudest when you lie to  yourself.
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If  you lack the courage to start, you have already
finished.
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One  thing you can’t recycle is wasted  time.
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Ideas  won’t work unless ‘ You’  do.
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Your  mind is  like a parachute…it functions only
when  open.

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The  10 commandments are not a multiple
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The  pursuit of happiness is the chase of a lifetime!
It is never too late to become what you  might
have been.

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Life  is too short to wake up with regrets.. So love
all the people.  Believe everything  happens for a reason. If you
get a second  chance, grab it with both hands. If
it  changes your life, let it. Nobody  said life
would be easy, they just promised it would  be
worth it.

Published in: on February 10, 2010 at 1:20 PM  Leave a Comment  
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Simple tips for a fulfilling life

Address by Subroto Bagchi, Chief Operating Officer, MindTree Consulting to the Class of 2006 at the Indian Institute of Management, Bangalore

I was the last child of a small-time government servant, in a family of five brothers. My earliest memory of my father is as that of a District Employment Officer in Koraput, Orissa. It was, and remains as back of beyond as you can imagine. There was no electricity; no primary school nearby and water did not flow out of a tap. As a result, I did not go to school until the age of eight; I was home-schooled. My father used to get transferred every year. The family belongings fit into the back of a jeep – so the family moved from place to place and without any trouble, my Mother would set up an establishment and get us going. Raised by a widow who had come as a refugee from the then East Bengal, she was a matriculate when she married my Father.

My parents set the foundation of my life and the value system, which makes me what I am today and largely, defines what success means to me today.

As District Employment Officer, my father was given a jeep by the government. There was no garage in the Office, so the jeep was parked in our house. My father refused to use it to commute to the office. He told us that the jeep is an expensive resource given by the government- he reiterated to us that it was not ”his jeep” but the government’s jeep. Insisting that he would use it only to tour the interiors, he would walk to his office on normal days. He also made sure that we never sat in the government jeep – we could sit in it only when it was stationary.

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That was our early childhood lesson in governance – a lesson that corporate managers learn the hard way, some never do.

The driver of the jeep was treated with respect due to any other member of my Father’s office. As small children, we were taught not to call him by his name. We had to use the suffix ‘dada’ whenever we were to refer to him in public or private. When I grew up to own a car and a driver by the name of Raju was appointed – I repeated the lesson to my two small daughters. They have, as a result, grown up to call Raju, ‘Raju Uncle’ – very different from many of their friends who refer to their family driver, as ‘my driver’. When I hear that term from a school- or college-going person, I cringe.

To me, the lesson was significant – you treat small people with more respect than how you treat big people. It is more important to respect your subordinates than your superiors.

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Our day used to start with the family huddling around my Mother’s chulha – an earthen fire place she would build at each place of posting where she would cook for the family. There was neither gas, nor electrical stoves.The morning routine started with tea. As the brew was served, Father would ask us to read aloud the editorial page of The Statesman’s ‘muffosil’ edition – delivered one day late. We did not understand much of what we were reading. But the ritual was meant for us to know that the world was larger than Koraput district and the English I speak today, despite having studied in an Oriya medium school, has to do with that routine. After reading the newspaper aloud, we were told to fold it neatly. Father taught us a simple lesson.

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He used to say, “You should leave your newspaper and your toilet, the way you expect to find it”. That lesson was about showing consideration to others. Business begins and ends with that simple precept.

Being small children, we were always enamored with advertisements in the newspaper for transistor radios – we did not have one. We saw other people having radios in their homes and each time there was an advertisement of Philips, Murphy or Bush radios, we would ask Father when we could get one. Each time, my Father would reply that we did not need one because he already had five radios – alluding to his five sons.See full size image

We also did not have a house of our own and would occasionally ask Father as to when, like others, we would live in our own house. He would give a similar reply,” We do not need a house of our own. I already own five houses”. His replies did not gladden our hearts in that instant.

Nonetheless, we learnt that it is important not to measure personal success and sense of well being through material possessions.

Government houses seldom came with fences. Mother and I collected twigs and built a small fence. After lunch, my Mother would never sleep. She would take her kitchen utensils and with those she and I would dig the rocky, white ant infested surrounding. We planted flowering bushes. The white ants destroyed them. My mother brought ash from her chulha and mixed it in the earth and we planted the seedlings all over again. This time, they bloomed. At that time, my father’s transfer order came. A few neighbors told my mother why she was taking so much pain to beautify a government house, why she was planting seeds that would only benefit the next occupant. My mother replied that it did not matter to her that she would not see the flowers in full bloom. She said, “I have to create a bloom in a desert and whenever I am given a new place, I must leave it more beautiful than what I had inherited”.

That was my first lesson in success. It is not about what you create for yourself, it is what you leave behind that defines success.

My mother began developing a cataract in her eyes when I was very small. At that time, the eldest among my brothers got a teaching job at the University in Bhubaneswar and had to prepare for the civil services examination. So, it was decided that my Mother would move to cook for him and, as her appendage, I had to move too. For the first time in my life I saw electricity in homes and water coming out of a tap. It was around 1965 and the country was going to war with Pakistan. My mother was having problems reading and in any case, being Bengali, she did not know the Oriya script. So, in addition to my daily chores, my job was to read her the local newspaper – end to end. That created in me a sense of connectedness with a larger world. I began taking interest in many different things. While reading out news about the war, I felt that I was fighting the war myself. She and I discussed the daily news and built a bond with the larger universe. In it, we became part of a larger reality. Till date, I measure my success in terms of that sense of larger connectedness. Meanwhile, the war raged and India was fighting on both fronts. Lal Bahadur Shastri, the then Prime Minster, coined the term “Jai Jawan, Jai Kishan” and galvanized the nation in to patriotic fervor. Other than reading out the newspaper to my mother, I had no clue about how I could be part of the action. So, after reading her the newspaper, every day I would land up near the University’s water tank, which served the community. I would spend hours under it, imagining that there could be spies who would come to poison the water and I had to watch for them. I would daydream about catching one and how the next day, I would be featured in the newspaper. Unfortunately for me, the spies at war ignored the sleepy town of Bhubaneswar and I never got a chance to catch one in action. Yet, that act unlocked my imagination.

Imagination is everything. If we can imagine a future, we can create it, if we can create that future, others will live in it. That is the essence of success.

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Over the next few years, my mother’s eyesight dimmed but in me she created a larger vision, a vision with which I continue to see the world and, I sense, through my eyes, she was seeing too. As the next few years unfolded, her vision deteriorated and she was operated for cataract. I remember, when she returned after her operation and she saw my face clearly for the first time, she was astonished. She said, “Oh my God, I did not know you were so fair”. I remain mighty pleased with that adulation even till date. Within weeks of getting her sight back, she developed a corneal ulcer and, overnight, became blind in both eyes. That was 1969. She died in 2002. In all those 32 years of living with blindness, she never complained about her fate even once. Curious to know what she saw with blind eyes, I asked her once if she sees darkness. She replied, “No, I do not see darkness. I only see light even with my eyes closed”. Until she was eighty years of age, she did her morning yoga everyday, swept her own room and washed her own clothes.

To me, success is about the sense of independence; it is about not seeing the world but seeing the light.

Over the many intervening years, I grew up, studied, joined the industry and began to carve my life’s own journey. I began my life as a clerk in a government office, went on to become a Management Trainee with the DCM group and eventually found my life’s calling with the IT industry when fourth generation computers came to India in 1981. Life took me places – I worked with outstanding people, challenging assignments and traveled all over the world.

In 1992, while I was posted in the US, I learnt that my father, living a retired life with my eldest brother, had suffered a third degree burn injury and was admitted in the Safderjung Hospital in Delhi. I flew back to attend to him – he remained for a few days in critical stage, bandaged from neck to toe. The Safderjung Hospital is a cockroach infested, dirty, inhuman place. The overworked, under-resourced sisters in the burn ward are both victims and perpetrators of dehumanized life at its worst. One morning, while attending to my Father, I realized that the blood bottle was empty and fearing that air would go into his vein, I asked the attending nurse to change it. She bluntly told me to do it myself. In that horrible theater of death, I was in pain and frustration and anger. Finally when she relented and came, my Father opened his eyes and murmured to her, “Why have you not gone home yet?” Here was a man on his deathbed but more concerned about the overworked nurse than his own state. I was stunned at his stoic self.

There I learnt that there is no limit to how concerned you can be for another human being and what the limit of inclusion is you can create.

My father died the next day. He was a man whose success was defined by his principles, his frugality, his universalism and his sense of inclusion.

Above all, he taught me that success is your ability to rise above your discomfort, whatever may be your current state. You can, if you want, raise your consciousness above your immediate surroundings. Success is not about building material comforts – the transistor that he never could buy or the house that he never owned. His success was about the legacy he left, the mimetic continuity of his ideals that grew beyond the smallness of a ill-paid, unrecognized government servant’s world.

My father was a fervent believer in the British Raj. He sincerely doubted the capability of the post-independence Indian political parties to govern the country. To him, the lowering of the Union Jack was a sad event. My Mother was the exact opposite. When Subhash Bose quit the Indian National Congress and came to Dacca, my mother, then a schoolgirl, garlanded him. She learnt to spin khadi and joined an underground movement that trained her in using daggers and swords. Consequently, our household saw diversity in the political outlook of the two. On major issues concerning the world, the Old Man and the Old Lady had differing opinions.

In them, we learnt the power of disagreements, of dialogue and the essence of living with diversity in thinking.

Success is not about the ability to create a definitive dogmatic end state; it is about the unfolding of thought processes, of dialogue and continuum.

Two years back, at the age of eighty-two, Mother had a paralytic stroke and was lying in a government hospital in Bhubaneswar. I flew down from the US where I was serving my second stint, to see her. I spent two weeks with her in the hospital as she remained in a paralytic state. She was neither getting better nor moving on. Eventually I had to return to work. While leaving her behind, I kissed her face. In that paralytic state and a garbled voice, she said,

Why are you kissing me, go kiss the world.” Her river was nearing its journey, at the confluence of life and death, this woman who came to India as a refugee, raised by a widowed Mother, no more educated than high school, married to an anonymous government servant whose last salary was Rupees Three Hundred, robbed of her eyesight by fate and crowned by adversity was telling me to go and kiss the world!

Success to me is about Vision. It is the ability to rise above the immediacy of pain. It is about imagination. It is about sensitivity to small people. It is about building inclusion. It is about connectedness to a larger world existence. It is about personal tenacity. It is about giving back more to life than you take out of it. It is about creating extra-ordinary success with ordinary lives.

Thank you very much; I wish you good luck and God’s speed. Go! kiss the world.

Published in: on December 22, 2009 at 7:40 PM  Leave a Comment  
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A story

A story is told about a soldier who was finally coming home after having fought in Vietnam. He called his parents from San Francisco. "Mom and Dad, I’m coming home, but I’ve a favor to ask. I have a friend I’d like to bring home with me."

"Sure," they replied, "we’d love to meet him."

"There’s something you should know," the son continued, "he was hurt pretty badly in the fighting. He stepped on a land mind and lost an arm and a leg. He has nowhere else to go, and I want him to come live with us."

"I’m sorry to hear that, son. Maybe we can help him find somewhere to live." "No, mom and dad, I want him to live with us."

"Son," said the father, "you don’t know what you’re asking. Someone with such a handicap would be a terrible burden on us. We have our own lives to live, and we can’t let something like this interfere with our lives. I think you should just come home and forget about this guy. He’ll find a way to live on his own."

At that point, the son hung up the phone. The parents heard nothing more from him. A few days later, however, they received a call from the San Francisco police. Their son had died after falling from a building, they were told. The police believed it was suicide.

The grief-stricken parents flew to San Francisco and were taken to the city morgue to identify the body of their son. They recognized him, but to their horror they also discovered something they didn’t know, their son had only one arm and one leg.

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Greatness Poster

Greatness and humanness lies in facing the truth, and making the most of it.

Cherish and Enjoy the moments as they occur now, brooding over silly things now will make us repent later of all the moments which we could have enjoyed but wasted.

Published in: on September 13, 2009 at 3:50 PM  Leave a Comment  
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What GOD wants and what we give?

 

The most though provoking mail forward I ever received, a rational person would probably be able to make the most sense of it. Think and act on it.

 

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Freedom at last !

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62 years back Indians erupted in joy, on becoming a free nation. Their joy would have no bounds, especially for those who actively participated in the freedom struggle. The struggle to see India and the next generation of Indians free from the British rule, are we actually aware of it and do we realize the importance of freedom? If we really do so then we would not be still this poor, we would not be still fighting for petty things, we would not see so much corruption around us.

Are we doing enough for the country? Are we doing anything at all? Questions to ponder on the Independence day.

Published in: on August 15, 2009 at 7:27 PM  Leave a Comment  
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Indian Blogs – where to find them ?

          We are often looking for people writing on the content most relevant to us (Indians), and blogs written by Indians are hard to find. But I realized that there are couple of sites where we can find exclusive Indian content with the information we would be interested. Given below are couple of sites with a small review of each.

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          India Blogs : A listing of exclusive Indian blogs, the blogs are segregated based on various categories and each category has only a couple of blogs listed. The selection criteria is pretty tough, you can be assured that only interesting blogs are featured here.

          Blogadda : A collection of Indian blogs. Blogs on very topic relevant to Indians can be found here.

          Indibloggies : Check out the award winning Indian blogs here. Every year a competition is held among all the Indian bloggers. The award winning best blogs are featured here.

          Technorati : This is a global accumulation of blogs and everyone and anyone can register their blog here. Search for Indian blogs would pop up any blog which has any sort of reference to India. Not very useful if you are looking for some quality blogs which is already moderated and judged, but is useful when the search is for specific topic.

Published in: on August 11, 2009 at 7:18 PM  Comments (3)  
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Blogadda

Found a nice place where we can view the content from other Indian bloggers. This site is moderated, so we can be assured that we will be viewing only the best content.

Visit blogadda.com to discover Indian blogs

Published in: on August 11, 2009 at 5:14 PM  Leave a Comment  
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Agyaat is it good?

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There are already many reviews blasting off this movie. Well, before giving the verdict, it is important to understand there are two main reasons why people go to watch thrillers.While some go to experience the fear, thrill and edge of the seat excitement some others go to tickle their brains and guess the killer before the director decides to reveal. This movie will hugely disappoint the latter, because we do not get to know the killer at all. Now that is unique for a murder mystery, but this if viewed as the thriller, it blows your guts out.

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After watching the movie, you would think twice before venturing into a small park, let alone a jungle.

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But the thrills apart there is very little the movie offers, the lead pair being a major drawback.

Published in: on August 7, 2009 at 9:42 PM  Leave a Comment  
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